Everyone wants to be happy! Happiness comes from the feelings of joy, wonder and satisfaction from your inner self. We need to change our focus from external joys and concentrate on what’s inside for everlasting happiness. On this Valentine’s Day, whether you have a significant other or not, focus on your inner happiness, unless you can be happy by yourself you will never succeed at being happy with someone else.
Focus on these 10 Habits of the Happiest People:
This Moment Is All You Have
- Stop thinking about the past, or worrying about the future—focus on today, focus on right this minute. The only control you have is on this very moment!
- You can’t control what will happen two hours from now—stay in the moment and enjoy the small details of your day such as sipping a perfect cup of coffee, talking to your family, and moving through your day with ease.
- Each single moment is where happiness is—how happy you are in it is all up to you!
Be Grateful for Each Second
- If you find it difficult to “enjoy the moment,” focus on giving thanks for what this moment represents: good health, a roof over your head, a sense of your spirituality, an exciting date to look forward to. We can all find something to be grateful for.
- Giving your appreciation to each moment—that will attract more good things to come!
Focus on Your “Happy Place” and we all have one..
- The beach, a quiet room, a concert performed by your favorite band—pick your own happy place and redirect your energy and perspective to something that makes you feel good!
- Your “happy place” can be anything—a person, place, a moment in time or thing that improves the way you feel about yourself.
- Visualize being there, and take in everything it offers. Repeat throughout your day, “I take love, peace and kindness with me everywhere I go.”
Remember That You Can’t Control Much—Except for Your Thoughts
- You can’t control what other people do—don’t give the responsibility of your happiness to someone else. Don’t focus on what they can or can’t provide you, as only you can give yourself happiness.
- Control your thoughts with positive affirmations and visualizations. “I can create the perfect reality for my life as I see fit, and it looks like this …” Be your own best cheerleader!
Get Excited Like a Toddler Does
- Life too serious these days? Try to look at life as a child would. Get down on the ground, and mimic what a child looks at and how he/she sees the world. Can you remember what that was like?
- Laugh at the things children do, and be silly for the sake of it – we all tend to take life a bit too seriously.
- Try this: Lie down outside on your back, and stare up at the trees and sky! (The world looks fun from this angle!)
Take Your Dog Out for a Walk (and Let Him Lead!)
- Dogs can perk your mood right up—take yours for a walk and don’t control him, just let him walk you for a change.
- Track where he goes, and take pictures of him throughout the walk—get outside your own life by watching his. Does he love a particular flower, or does he head for the hills?
- Dogs are happy by nature – they get excited about the now and what they are experiencing – try it for yourself!
Give Your Time Away
- Focusing on how you can help others. Give your time to someone else today, and you’ll instantly feel happy.
- Contribute to any cause you’re passionate about—smile, and get to know those you’re helping. Ask questions about their lives and make them feel as if they matter.
- Focus on the difference you’re making in someone’s life, and make a monthly commitment (or whatever works with your schedule).
- Repeat this affirmation: “I am making a difference in the lives I touch, and they make a difference in mine.”
- Paint using only your hands.
- Follow your instincts, and trust the process of finger painting—it will allow you to express yourself while blending together the perfect assortment of colors!
- Don’t give yourself “rules” for coloring. Just freely glide your hand into the paint, and paint as you may.
- Practice the art of “letting go”.
Write Your Heart Out
- Stressed out? If it’s because of a particular person (a demanding boss, insensitive boyfriend/girlfriend, etc.) write out a mock letter (which you don’t have to send).
- Write freely, with no reservations about what you have to say.
- Don’t censor yourself—the very act of writing can be a great way to purge the negative feelings that prevent happiness.
- After writing the letter, read it out loud and throw it away or burn it and when you do try to release all that what written.
Get to Know Where You Came From
- Find someone in your family (an older relative such as a grandparent, uncle or aunt) who can recall memories about his or her early life, or fascinating periods of history. It is amazing what we can learn from listening to stories from our families past.
- Learn where you came from, and what perspective your family members have about things you could never experience yourself. This is a rich way to learn about them, yourself and the world.
- Gain a fresh perspective by listening to their stories, and improve your own happiness and appreciation.
A Few Last Words …
Happiness is all about the feelings you generate within. Focus on reconnecting with family members, giving back to your community and taking the time to have a child’s perspective. When you do, you’ll see that you hold the power over your own happiness! Your happiness has and will always be in your control and your control only! Don’t give anyone else the permission to steal it from you!